The recent violence and terrorist attacks in Paris present challenges for parents. Do you tell your children? When and how do you tell your children about these terrorizing and scary events? What are the dos and don’ts?
- Regardless of age, when an attack happens it’s best if you tell your kids yourself. You want them to hear it from you first.
- Take cues from your own child – don’t offer information or too many details. discuss only the basics.
- Pre-K and very young do not need to be told at all but answer questions they may come to you with honestly and without too much detail
- Middle Schoolers and High Schoolers need a general understanding but do not need all the details but I insist that you want your older school age children to hear about Paris and terrorism from you rather than via friends, at school, or on social media
- Watching TV or listening to radio really depends on your children and how much they internalize their feelings and emotions.
- Don’t make it scary when you tell children
- You know your child best.
- Keep eyes open for signs of distress, depression, or anxiety in your child and don’t hesitate to contact a medical professional if you see concerning changes in your son or daughter’s normal habits (eating, sleeping, mood).
- Sadly, this is not the last time you’ll have to parent and educate about the topic of terrorism.
Remember to be honest, open, available, and consistent – make rules and have discussions that are right for YOUR family.